A measurement in millimeters is with the spring removed, the spring guide removed, the rebound damping push rod removed (goes through the damping rod), the fork tube and damper rod bottomed, and all of the air bled from the oil.
Then, you measure from the top of the oil to the top of the outer tube (fork bottomed).
If you have no other preference, tell them to set the oil level at the standard spec., which is 105mm.
The standard oil and viscosity is what I'd go with (KYB 01), which is approx. 5wt.